PARENTING: HOW I DO IT #3 Or, a list of things which have no effect upon your ability to raise a child.

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Going out with your friends does not make you a bad mother.

Drinking wine with your friends does not make you a bad mother.

Gossiping about boys with your friends does not make you a bad mother.

Experiencing lust does not make you a bad mother.

Offloading your child onto family and friends occasionally does not make you a bad mother.

Working or studying so you can provide for your child (and yourself) does not make you a bad mother.

Swearing does not make you a bad mother.

Being separated from your child’s other parent does not make you a bad mother.

Being young or immature does not make you a bad mother.

Not looking like a soap opera version of worn-out, harangued mother does not make you a bad mother.

Feeling worn-out and harangued does not make you a bad mother.

Caring about your appearance does not make you a bad mother.

Having hobbies and interests that are unrelated to your motherhood, does not make you a bad mother.

Not breastfeeding, for whatever reason, does not make you a bad mother. (via whyaretheretwo)

The narrow, conventional, misogynistic expectation of how a mother should be, and the ways in which you do not fulfil those constraints, does not make you a bad mother.

Let me know if there is anything I’ve missed, and I’ll add it to the list (and credit you).

Born to be brave,

Hetty

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